Have you ever delayed finishing a book because it’s so damn good? Then a fair warning, this may be the consequence for you if you decide to pick up this book by entrepreneur and expert on women’s leadership and well-being, Tara Mohr. Playing Big: A Practical Guide for Brilliant Women Like You is an empowering consultation of one’s fears, a practical guide in engaging with the danger of playing small and a kind friend in helping you shift gears into operating in the divinity of your greatness.
In a brief introduction, Tara defines that “Playing Big is about bridging the gap between what we see in you and what you know about yourself. It’s about you living with a sense of greater freedom to express your voice and pursue your aspirations. It’s about refocusing your attention on your longings and dreams, and playing big in going for them.”. Sounds easy, right? Well, if it was, I don’t believe this ten brilliantly chaptered book would have been written, coupled with a course.
In this review, I’ll unpack a few of the themes highlighted in the ten chapters in the hopes that my experience of the read will give an informed decision on whether to 1. Explore the concept of Playing Big and/or 2. Purchase the book and engage with the content and concepts influenced by the Playing Big Leadership Programme for Women and finally, 3. That if you’re already Playing Big, then pass this information along to someone who’s overstayed their position in playing small.
This book is for women, tailored exclusively for us who have those constant dress rehearsals of playing big but the imposter syndrome veils our efforts. For those of us who collide with the opportunity to shift from a place of purpose and calling, and then fall short because systematically we’ve been coddled to not have too much ambition or aspirations – you know, for a girl. It’s for the crazy woman who’s crazy enough to dream big and with every muscle wants to play big, but there’s always something holding you back. Mohr unpacks a couple of themes in the book, and mentioning them all would be giving the whole plot away, so I’ll discuss a few that resonated with me:
Deciding with Discerning Fear
In the book, Tara details the two different types of fear as per Hebrew teachings, and that is Yirah and Pachad. The one that I want to focus on is Yirah, which is a fear that we recognise when we are inhabiting a larger space than we are used to – you know, that one that you honour for a few seconds when you speak into your dreams and power, and then abandon because it becomes overwhelming? That is the one. What’s comforting about this type of fear, is that it’s a kind of fear that operates on the council of your inner mentor when worked with wisely. How common of a relationship do you have with this fear, and how often do you honour it?
Being Kind to Yourself
I’ve mentioned it briefly above, and so does the author many a times in the book, and that is the power of the inner mentor. We’ve heard of the inner critic and let it protect us so many a times, that we shun the brave ideas that keep us from playing big because the risk was too high. In this chapter of Inner Wisdom, not only does Mohr introduce the concept of the inner mentor but she also calls for the introspection of the character development and nurturing of one’s inner critic. You’re going to love it!
Changing Your Language – Let it be Powerful!
With this particular theme, undermining speech habits used in networking environments and meetings or via email are analysed. Terms such as “Just”, “Kind of …” and disclaimers are a few of the ones that really hit home, and does no one any justice in delivering inarticulate messages. Are there any of these hedges or apologies sounding familiar? Then I’d recommend that you explore chapter 8, it’s the one for you.
One thing that this book is not, and upon the transparency of Tara, is a quick fix, so if you’re looking for one, then this book is not for you. It’s also not a motivational book (I honestly cannot stand those) that you put away once you’ve closed the last chapter. It’s a continuous and patient guide that only works unless you do, one day at a time and one powerful conversations with self at a time which then action into you playing big.
Wishing you all the best as you enter into your Yirah and collide with your destiny, and feel empowered to Play Big – you deserve it!
“The best way to summon your true calling is to put yourself in service to God” – Marianne Willliamson
In my past blogs, I’ve been quite transparent about being a Christian, and how much it impacts the decisions that I make, from my career to the company that I keep and most importantly how I perceive myself and what I radiate to others. This enforced me to be cognisant and intentional about what books I consume, because words create capacity, and I need(ed) thoughts and words whose divinity and powers were beyond my own. And with that intentionality, along came Marianne Williamson’s The Divine Law of Compensation.
The first time I came across this book was through social media via a post by one of my followers whose content and character I admire wholeheartedly, and who at every opportunity she engages, enshrines the alignment between spiritual wellness and living your full potential. “The ego or false-mind is the false belief that we are separate from God.”; it as when I read this book that I knew I had to get the book.
The essence of The Divine Law of Compensation speaks to alignment of the truth of us (what we believe of ourselves) to the power of love (what God believes of us) and the seismic divine shift in thought need to be summoned in order to experience the divine law of compensation. The 16 chaptered book unpacks this Law on Work, Money and Miracles.
In her many short prayers in this book, one prayer is that of surrender and to operate on a plateau that is of the reflection of the Mind of God so as to mission in service to one’s true calling. In the “Calling vs Job” chapter, she goes on to minister about the approach and distinction between the two and approach to which one supports your God-given functionality. One of my favourite passages speaks to the abundance and permanence of God’s compensation of love towards us where Williamson says “Losing a job does not mean losing your calling because you are a personal ambassador of God, you have been given a permanent assignment.”. Once you come into self-actualization and operate on that power and potential, you’ll transcend fear and claim your calling without any limits.
One of the Divine Laws of Compensation is that of Abundance, which is what God wants for us. In the book, Williamson speaks of abundance from not only internal content, but to financial prosperity as well and the relationship that we have with money, one that needs to transition from that of embracing struggle to a firm belief that it’s not to be distrusted.
I’ve always dismissed the notion that money was the root of all evil. Money, and the abundance of it is the root of an abundant heart that is operating in service of purpose, on the fuel gratitude.
There is no reason to distrust money as it is abundance and that is of God, there is also no joy in poverty.
Throughout the entire book, Marianne Williamson fervently expresses her desires for the reader to align themselves with divine thoughts of God’s thoughts and truths about them – as the compensation for such across any vertical of your life is divine. The book also reminds us how important it is to be active in your faith, and to ensure whatever you put in God’s hands, you’ll do your part in aligning work and thoughts though prayer, the medium of miracles.
The Divine Law of Compensation is about operating from miracle minded thinking, a place of abundance and God-truth and summoning all this positivity to support your purpose in world created with you in mind.