You know how Facebook has the capacity create a credit risk profile for your bank just based on the amount data (that we all willingly share and open) they have on you over the years of being a user? In the same breathe, a couple of weeks ago I got reminded through a post that I shared four years ago of how far I had come, both in how many emojis I used in one word and my journey with Christ and in getting to know myself in this phase of adulthood.
My 23rd birthday is approaching in the next two months, and adulting has for the past few months been a prayer that In the absence of getting lost in my identity, may God pull up a mirror of His WORD to remind me of the falsehood of insecurity and the truth of WHOSE and WHO I am. The past year itself has brought upon so many blessings that have needed me to stretch and bend myself in a way that I thought I was incapable of doing. Blessings opportune moments met with preparation that had me, and still does have me utter words of gratitude for the opportunity to serve in love with passion and humility in the work that I do.
There is no right way of adulting. I have had the compass of failure, success and integrity to guide me through the past year. And to be transparent, I lose motivation and I doubt my worthiness and capabilities to see and carry relationships and projects to fruition, no matter how entrusted I am by other parties. It’s in these few things that keep my spirit afloat and comfort and secure me in my value to my purpose …
It’s in Marianne Williamson’s quote in one of my favourite daily devotional compilations, 365 Days of Miracles where she says "I will not deflect, diminish or invalidate my dreams today, or concoct excuses for why they can't happen.", that inspires me to dream even bigger. Having a word in the morning to start your day sets one on the right path to creation of what comes out of the tongue.
Doing this also allows me to strategize how I'll go to the King, how I'll go before God and prioritize my prayer. In this, applying His promises to my prayer life as He’s designed for me as I go before God's throne.
I pray your thoughts and faith rest in the overflow of God's Truth about your life. That His promises encourage you to dream dreams that are not confined by thoughts and time. I pray that like the infinite God I serve, that you operate your faith in the realm where ALL things are possible.
A Journal of Gratitude
We’re in Day 143 of 2017, how many things are you grateful for so far? Or rather, how many moments of gratitude have you miss because the bigger picture seems to be what hasn’t been conquered or happened as yet? What I’ve started doing is collecting and cleaning mayonnaise jars, and making those my Gratitude Jars. Each Sunday, I note something that I’m grateful for that’s happened the week prior, to keep my humility in check, and to validate the awesomeness and greatness that comes from the bigger purpose of my life.
I keep a record of opportunities and moments that I encounter in the week, it doesn’t have to be a promotion, it could be another woman in technology that I’ve met or the fact that I got to eat my favourite slice of carrot cake with a red cappuccino on a day that wasn’t going so well. It’s the little things that count.
Deliberate Digital Disconnect
It is also the big things that count, like staying away from my gadgets and WI-FI, I am a millennial after all. Jokes aside, it is SOOOO difficult for me to be separated from my gadgets, especially during the week, and not work. What I try and do to deliberate about disconnecting from the virtual world of work, is to not take work home, read a book, listen to great music, go flower shopping (it’s so therapeutic)and watch fantastic series like Billions, Scandal and Quantico.
This also serves as the opportune moment to invite and practise solitude and facilitate thoughts that you’ve consciously and unconsciously vacuumed over the course of a dedicated time period.
Believing in Myself and the Opportunities to Create
The past year has been such an inspired year for my career, and that could’ve only happened through the gateway of believing that I was deserving of the opportunities that I was creating and were created for me. In the past three weeks, I’ve had the opportunity engage UCT Graduate School of Business MBA students about Innovation, New Venture Careers and Corporate and Shared Business Value as it relates to Millenials and imparting Innovation and Data knowledge about career opportunities in STEM to high school students in Khayelitsha.
The value of relationships (including mentors and sponsors), and the social currency that it is, that I speak to in Networking Your Networth, has also been an accelerant in being where I am at present in my career and my spiritual, intellectual and emotional growth. I believe that one does not only speak and it comes to fruition, but what you allow the people in your circle to speak over you, there’s power in what you allow to be affirmed over your life, with your permission.
This brings me to intentionality, particularly over my finances. I believe now more than ever that discipline aside, anything that I’ve spoken over about my finances has come into fruition, including being broke. Saving is also no talk shop, it’s work, constant work that needs the discipline of a debit order of R100 (or whichever amount you’re able to allocate) every Friday into a fixed account. I’ve also kept in mind that saving is a carrier to the destination of investing. Save to invest, and invest to create wealth.
The relationship between money and self-esteem is great. So I’m quite aware and have become responsive in being very urgent in discerning when the temptation of insecurity creeps in because I’m not able to spend, or afford. Finance is one of the things in your life that can arrest many components of your life, and your blessings.
I’m hoping that this has been quite useful, and perhaps some tricks you’ll implement. I’d love to hear from you in how you tackle everyday adulthood.
Looking forward to engaging with you.